Fearful or Realistic?

Today I was in my salon getting my hair done and had a........strongly worded, lively discussion.
Aren't all salons the proving ground for theories, feelings, and all other craziness?
It's the only thing that makes an hour  under the hot dryer bearable!  I'm just saying. (Insert pic here, no really)

So the topic was this blog. I shared the fact that I had started writing about my journey to the decision of motherhood and hoped to shake out some fears related to it. This is when things got real. So I pulled out my cup and started to collect everyone's 2 cents! I was told that there was nothing to be afraid of, FEAR is just the False Expectations of things Appearing Real . As I waited for Iyanla to come fix my life because at this point I am convinced I am on her show.... I quickly thought of all the fears that someone would have wished they labeled as real instead of false expectations....

1. The kid who should have feared their parents' wrath but skipped school instead. (I will not address corporal punishment today) LOL.
2. The person who should have feared becoming a drug addict or dope fiend, but took their first hit instead.
3. The person who should have feared a Crohn's episode, but ate the oatmeal instead.
 

Okay maybe number 3 is just me.. and some of my fellow Crohnies (no pun intended). But the point I was trying to make is some fear is healthy. Fear tends to be heavily linked to our intuition and most times keeps us safe. As long as we are not paralyzed by it,  fear can be used to help us to do better and be brutally honest and quite frankly keep it real with ourselves.

My fears related to this whole baby situation are very real and if properly explored will help me make an informed decision of whether this lifestyle change called motherhood is for me. Doing my due diligence BEFORE jumping into pregnancy and motherhood will benefit my husband and the possible baby.

I don't want to be situation number 4.That woman who should have feared being unprepared for a pregnancy, but had an unplanned pregnancy anyway.

I think seeing fear as a false expectation can not be an excuse to jump headlong into anything. As my Big Sisters used to tell me, "Fail to plan, Plan to fail."

In my opinion, not only is FEAR real,  FEAR keeps us REAL...... hopefully with ourselves and others. Even if those others are a salon full of Iyanlas who offer their 2 cents in an attempt to fix your life. LOL

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